Anonymous asked: Thank you both for being adults, you remind me a lot of "us". I have scrolled back, and may have missed it. Are these below the muscle, and also, what is the composition? My wife struggles (after 2 kids) with the do or do not question. On one side she is unhappy with the look of her breasts; but on the other she is a fairly conservative person and thinks the decision would be immodest and self-serving. Did you have those issues as well? Thank you.
Hi, thanks. The Missus and I are not interested in your projection of your values. They are yours, and we define our own. Aside from this fairly anonymous blog, the missus is the most modest woman I know. And her augmented breasts are not self-serving—I take great pleasure in them, also.
"As far as the composition and placement of the implant, mine are placed below the muscle and are of a round, moderate profile.
As to the last two questions, of course I had those issues. I am much more conservative in dress and appearance th”an most people I know. I had been considering an augmentation for more than 2 years, though it never seemed possible in our then current situation. I didn’t even really anticipate being able to have my surgery as soon as I did, things just kind of fell into place, financially.
In regards to feeling that ‘the decision would be immodest and self-serving,’ I think that is an initial feeling for most moms. You think about where else all of that money could go to support your family. I know I did and I think what helped me most was talking to my mother about it, who had an augmentation in the 1980’s (by the same surgeon) after having three children. There are lots of women who do not lose breast mass after having children, but I did. It’s hard for others to understand how un-feminine you can feel.
After pregnancy, so many parts of our bodies change which even with good exercise and diet can’t help. My mother told me she felt the same way at first, as if she was being selfish, and if you are taking money that gives your children the basic needs in life to obtain an augmentation, then yeah, I’d say that is wrong and self-serving. But if it’s something your wife is thinking about, then it will probably never leave her mind. We all do things that make us happy. For my husband, he collects audio equipment. He’s obsessed with building the purest, most clear sound for the music and movies we watch and listen to (that we all enjoy—while watching movies as a family or while dancing in the living room). For me, the augmentation was one of those things that made ME happy.”